we have loved
each other long
enoughthat what I don’t say still
echoes in the mind,
I am so boredof raising facts:
stabbings, assaults,
my husband knowsbetter than to tell
me what to do, speaks
his care so thatI don’t have to eat
my fear of going alone
to the grocery storeI have choices like
that day one month ago
when I asked my sonto please stop
telling people
you are Chinese